Finding Peace in Life's Frustrations: Overcoming Anxiety with Faith

Identify the sources of irritation in your life

Understand that everyone has a different experience and perspective

Recognize that challenges and difficulties are a normal part of life

Learn to manage and overcome irritations with the right mindset and techniques

Hello, my dear friends. Good morning and good evening and a warm welcome to one and all of you. Namaste, namaskar, wana kum, whichever language or whichever time zone you belong to. We are friends and we are here to help each other. And the very reason we get involved in these kind of sessions is just to help the mankind. Therefore, we build each other as overcomers. In our life, there are various situations and circumstances, unprecedented events and things that you and I do not anticipate tends to occur now and then. But then you and I should have that strength and courage and experience. See, the more you get involved in these kind of, therefore it doesn't mean that you should start looking for troubles. But when trouble hits you, when a problem that you did not anticipate hits you, it is actually not a new thing for you. You definitely know how to overcome because you have applied certain methods, certain techniques and you know certain um what to say things that you have learned in the past right maybe similar to that problem or little different but doesn't matter problem is a problem don't ever try to um categorize the problem as complex medium complex high complex and this and that right all problems are problems start to keep the problem at a distance and do not keep it under the microscope this is the rule of thumb okay this is another short session and this is a very important topic and every topic is important topic some of the topics may sound oh this is really a topic for discussion yeah it may sound so but then that is why we want you to listen to the whole video right we are making short videos like 8 minutes 10 minutes 15 minutes what is the most irritating thing in your life? What is the most irritating thing in your life? Many of us have plenty of answers to this question, correct or not? So the reason to ask this question is, this is a versatile question. This is a comprehensive question that most of us will have many answers to it. Why? Because my experience in this world is not the same as yours. the way how I am living my life here in India, in Bangalore, in some gully, versus a person living in US in some street, versus a person living in London in a posh house, versus a person living in a village where there is not even proper electricity or water or the street lights are available, or internet absolutely they have not even seen once in their lifetime. There are villages today also like that. right of course the prime minister of India is trying to bring digitalization in India but it's like a vast coverage to reach to the ends of the peripherals of India it's never going to be easy so there are various aspects various parameters in life people go through various experiences now let's start analyzing this question a very very important one why because I will give the answer a little later right let's first try to understand the question what is the most irritating thing in your life to some of us the most irritating thing could be the noise right especially some construction work going on in my area i do not know every month someone else is starting some or other person is starting construction work and it takes almost like two years for anyone to finish construction end-to-end construction therefore there will will be lot of noise stray dogs I don't have to explain Bangalore and definitely know right violation and rules for example you are a person who follow the rules but then you will see two three violators coming on the road and they irritate you so much noise pollution is not something that many people count it as irritation why because their system their DNA is like that their sensitivity to noise is not as bad as yours or mine therefore I use a beautiful thing called as 3m earplugs and I plug it into inside my ears but if I have to attend some meetings or calls most of us are working from home or in hybrid model correct can I plug in earplug and put a headset over on top of it I won't be able to hear the voice of the person so what happens sometimes the tolerance level need to be worked upon so we will start analyzing the tips how to overcome nice pollution rules violation of rules politics right big irritation especially when a party whom you hate the most comes and sits in center or in the state ministry of course you hate them a lot. This is the situation for all the citizens, whichever country you belong, right. If you are a human being, you will always have this kind of irritation. Next five years, I will have to see this guy, correct. That is another source of irritation. Any kind of economical reformation, you know, the government is trying to bring in new transformations or reformations and all that and that is going to hurt you, then obviously you get irritated. at workplace of course there are variety of irritations for example you have a challenging peer you have a challenging subordinate you are challenging boss why because challenges are quite common right it is definitely not something that you would discover once in a while no every single day you should expect challenges why because that's how human brain works right we are not like robots created like robots all of us have the same capacity all of us have the same dynamicity all of us have the same IQ. No, it varies from person to person. Therefore, difference of opinion is going to be quite common and it all depends how you look at it, how receptive you are, how responsive you are and how much you want to accommodate, right? Maybe 10 things people say, 8 of them you can ignore, but there are some good things, 1 or 2 good things, nothing wrong, you take them into consideration and start applying those things in your life and your life changes right always start looking at people now I will get into the tips little later now we are analyzing the sources you know what is the most irritating thing in your life we are trying to analyze the sources in India when summer season comes nowadays in any season power cut happens and power cut happens your ups drains you have a very important meeting what happens how long can you sustain in your mobile no you cannot another source of irritation because you cannot anticipate certain areas in my city infrastructure is really bad when heavy rain comes the flood comes and really you know creates a turmoil in that in that place water gushes into the houses and this and that right and that is another source of irritation joblessness right wherever I go I'm not able to excel for some reasons people hate me because my IQ is really low what can I do about it children really irritated with academic system every day they have to carry 20 kg load you know almost like a you know a bag of rice so heavy it is and the system is also very heavy the academic curriculum it's very very heavy and recently my daughter was going through midterm exam she could sleep only for four hours per day she is doing her 10th grade and i'm sure you have your children sitting in 11th grade 12th grade and in colleges university exams and stuff like that things may be a little different in us and or uk or europe or any other places but in india the academic system is really heavy it has not changed even a bit during my days however the way how i suffered you know a generation gap and even the next generation has come i'm seeing the same thing in fact it is getting even more worse so what can we do about it can we sit at a corner and start getting irritated angry annoyed frustrated disappointed i'm not going to study let me go and do some work and all that no you have to live with that right but these are the different sources of irritation or a pet dog in a neighbor's house always barking i have a similar situation in the surroundings also but not very bad but what to do right these kind of sources of irritation keeps uh crossing your path and my path sometimes you know financial crunch now you planned something and you got into a debt now the irritating part is you are on the verge of losing your job and what do you do that is the most irritating thing when your planning gets disrupted you plan for something you got into something now there is a disruption there is a barricade there is a hurdle what to do so many things right it varies from person to person what am i trying to reach i'm going to to close in the next two minutes the tips that we want to leave behind are going to be very very simple you know what it does accept the problem as it is accept the person as he is or has she is learn to accept the situation learn to accept the problem as it is Learn to accept the person as he is or as who he is or as who she is Whatever English you want you please translate into right grammar and vocabulary and all that. I hope you understand this, right? Do not try to add or decrement to the situation. Yeah, he should have behaved like this. She should have spoken like this why this problem occurs to me why me only all these things if you start adding more question marks you are adding more fuel to the burning fire this is the first tip why because that is life life is not static in there is a box now which measures the in icos you can see definitely admit a patient it will be measuring the heart beep and all that and there will be variance, right? What if a straight line comes? Over, chapter closed, the person is dead and gone, correct or not? If life is going to be a straight line, actually you cannot live your life. It is not interesting. Life is sometimes boring without challenging things, you know, without, I am not saying you should look for troubles, you should invite trouble, hey, come, somebody come, someone come and trouble me, man, not like that, right? You are not a troublemaker, but then when trouble hits you, it looks really challenging for you. It looks really interesting for you. Why? Because second tip is learn to look at any irritating thing in any form as a challenge, which is going to leave behind some lessons, which is going to leave behind some morals, which is going to leave behind some values in life. If you start looking at this challenge, I mean any trouble in this manner, obviously there is nothing that can irritate you. Correct? first of all have the true acceptance yes it happened what can I do about it nothing because I'll tell you normal citizens of India normal citizens of any country 10 9 out of 10 things are not in your control environmental conditions circumstances political economical reformation recession at workplace kind of project change reorgan reorg happening in this thing and you know your your children's eye your your child's IQ you you just cannot control most of these things but you can manage but you can handle it and you can also overcome and these are the tips to overcome first of all have the attitude of acceptance then secondly you learn to understand that yes every challenging thing is going to leave behind some values for me models for me in my life so why don't I look into it why don't I slice and dice thirdly give it a try from your heart not from your mind yeah if you try from your mind you're going to definitely fail why because mind is feeble than your heart heart has the right attitude yeah it has the spirit it has the right attitude mind is bothered about so many things therefore there are chances that you can definitely fail mind is needed of course everything is processed in your mind but learn to work from your heart yeah that's a totally different experience maybe i will do another session what is the difference between working from mind and working from heart good title no so we will try to do this in some other session right learn to try to work from your heart to battle against those challenges all these three tips you follow you will definitely have a have a great success you will not fail fourth important thing when it is not related to a circumstance right every circumstance is being made or created or crosses your path because of a human being correct no now for example the circumstances caused by some other norms reformation or rules which have been put from government of india or whatever you can't do much about it because you have to look at the law and not at the people because they are ministers but sometimes within the family within your you know what to say at workplace within the circle of if you're a student and all that most of the the times you have human beings crossing your path i'll tell you what maybe they are wrong i'm not trying to justify that they are right maybe they are wrong they insulted you they irritated you they keep irritating you they keep bullying you ragging and this and that all happens but then learn to look at people with compassion with the tolerance with patience i'll tell you what after five times or ten times they will slowly start to think this is how the brain works right every one of us every human being in this world they have compassion good example i tell you something happened last week also while i was just going in my vehicle four i saw one two-wheeler guy had fallen down yeah he belongs to a certain religion i definitely know what it is but i'm not going to tell you but i'll tell you what and it's it's it's it's not it is noticeable that he belongs to a certain religion because of his dress code beard and many other things But when he, the moment he had fallen down on the road, every vehicle stops, every one of them, they parked their two wheelers and they rushed towards the, he was a mid-aged fellow, he was roughly around 48 or 50. One guy lifted the vehicle, the other guy lifted that person, the other guy was trying to actually, you know, dust his clothes and checking whether he is all good or not. The other guy is taking the vehicle to the side, the other guy is clearing the traffic because the vehicle started kind of piling and all that where do you get all this yeah the morning so there are around 20 people who rush to the spot all these 20 people where they told yeah such a guy is going to fall and you have to it was not a pre-planned event it comes from the heart right therefore inbuilt in the human being the system inbuilt you have lot of compassion yeah you might curse a person while he's alive but the moment he's dead immediately tears roll down your eyes Why? Because I lost a great opportunity. I could have been in peace with this guy. The problem is, we don't get or we don't tend to get into the peacemaking skills or pursue peace with men, this concept, you know, while the person is alive. But when the person is dead and gone, when the person is no more, what a terrible mistake I have committed, right? You will bite your tongue, you will be knocking against your forehead and this and that. It's too late, my dear beloved friends. so what I'm trying to say here is learn to look at people with lot of compassion perhaps they have a problem perhaps they are irritating you yes they do it knowingly also but then through your compassion through your patience through your tolerance your own colleague will change your own wife will change your own husband your own children your own neighbor everyone will change someday why because the human system is like that it's created by God that way probably there is a lot of compassion in everyone's heart and there is a lot of love for one another it is only that because of certain political vedanta we are divided by religion language certain doctrines this and that right otherwise we are all human being good example i told you it true incident it happened right and for example one once i was going in the train one person was having little breathlessness the whole bunch of people in that boggy they kind of circled one person is actually you know the fan is not enough therefore he is waving to get some more air therefore he feels comfortable another guy is wiping with this wet cloth on the face one guy is running towards the train police and cops were there under but who's the train doctor duty doctor next station people helped in that person train halted for five minutes this happened long ago 15 or 20 years ago and I was a bachelor I think so yeah and they carried him all the way to the emergency ambulance came and all right and then only everyone came back now who is that guy in what way is related to these people in the bogey right any emergency situation strikes that's when i think our compassion is put to test but i don't think that's the right principle why can't you force yourself and show that compassion and love and patience i'll tell you what this question will be invalid what is the most irritating thing in my life. That is nothing. Sorry. Invalid question. The day you are able to make the statement, this question is invalid in my life. I'll tell you what, you will be a very strong human being. You will be a very loving person. You will be a very kind person. You will have lot of gentleness. You will have lot of goodness in you. You want to do good to the people. So many qualities. I'm not here to blame anyone that you are bad or good or whatever. you judge who you are you are with me alright so we end here stay tuned the next session is what the title would be what is the most valuable thing in your life so stay tuned I'm going to meet you in the next session with this title God bless you please subscribe to a channel if you have not share with your friends whomever you know the videos with you allow what you like you comment you want any new sessions please give us the title here we are to serve you for free no problem okay God bless you namaskaram and take care

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